Social Rules for Kids:The Top 100 Social Rules Kids Need to Succeed

Social Rules for Kids:The Top 100 Social Rules Kids Need to Succeed

If you are a parent or teacher I hope you have a copy of  Social Rules for Kids -The Top 100 Social Rules Kids Need to Succeed by Susan Diamond, MA, CCC.   Parents and all who work with children will greatly benefit from the lessons in this book to improve their child’s social interactions. You will also find an interesting foreword by Ann Gordon, PhD, BCET.  Social Rules for Kids is a comfortable-to-hold, easy to read, and handy to refer to  paperback. I highly recommend Susan Diamond’s book because as a parent, teacher, and now a grandmother I could use her social rules with the children under my care every day.

Congratulations to Susan Diamond!  Social Rules for Kids is winning awards!

  • 2011 Mom’s Choice Awards Gold Medal Recipient
  • 2012 National Parenting Publications Award – Silver Award, Parenting Resources

Social Rules for Kids Are So Important!

I don’t have anyone to play with.” How often have you heard that? Each time I heard this plea from my children or from my students it broke my heart. Now, I would not feel so helpless because I just discovered the perfect book to help children interact, join in, play, make friends and keep friends.

Kids, teachers, therapists, and parents, Susan Diamond has written an invaluable resource to help any child to sharpen their social skills and learn to navigate the social world. When I was teaching, Social Rules for Kids, would have been sitting on my desk next to my lesson plans. Susan Diamond wrote one hundred one page lesson plans on how to teach kids to navigate daily social interactions.  Yes, some kids have more difficulty with the unwritten social rules than others, but ALL kids must be told and reminded how to follow the rules of social behavior.

[sws_blockquote_endquote align="" cite="Ann Gordon, PhD, BCET" quotestyle="style02"] What these children share is that they don’t know what to do when, what to say to whom, or, in short, how to make and keep friends.[/sws_blockquote_endquote]Which are the children most in need of  Social Rules for Kids? In her foreword, Ann Gordon writes,” Some of these children have difficulties because of learning difficulties, some because of autism spectrum disorders, and some because of emotional challenges. What these children share is that they don’t know what to do when, what to say to whom, or, in short, how to make and keep friends.” Therefore, these children will have happier childhoods and teen years if those who care for them read Social Rules for Kids with them and help them make these rules part of their daily routine. All parents want their youth to develop social communication skills for better relationships at home, at school, and in the community.

About the Rules

In Ann Gordon’s foreword, we learn Ms. Diamond and her target audience, the children themselves, devised these rules that apply directly to the children’s real-world lives – lives of being teased, not fitting in, being bullied, behaving inappropriately, not knowing how to have a conversation, and not having friends. Ms. Diamond tells her readers that she started compiling these rules 16 years ago! Along the years, the author added and perfected her rules with the goal of making children’s daily lives easier and more successful. Current topics, such as the Internet and video games, are used as examples to be relevant to today’s children.

About the Book

The book should appeal to children ages 8 years and up. From 3rd grade on, teachers can easily incorporate these rules in their lessons in personal development, social etiquette, social thinking, social skills…

The use of amusing cartoon illustrations with balloon text at the beginning of each chapter gives the young reader an added perk.

Sharp, bold print to highlight subtitles in each rule and the clever use of a hand holding the page number in the circle formed by touching the index finger to the thumb all add appreciated, special effects. I really love all the studied features of this book!

Parents should all have this book with its many tips to help their child fit it.  By reading the book together, a few rules at a time, it opens the doors to communication with their child and allows them to personalize a social plan, to learn the vocabulary to express feelings about this topic, and gives their child the social skills to get back on the horse bus and interact with their peers. This book is a keeper because parents will want to bring it out to address issues as they arise.

Bravo to those responsible for the efficient organization and layout of Social Rules for Kids! There is no need for an index because the Table of Contents has the 7 chapters and its rules found in each. The title of each rule and its page number is so clear that a reader can quickly find the rule they are looking for. For example for the chapter on

FRIENDS

Rule #17     Make a Friend ………………………………………….. page 22

Rule #18     Choose Someone Who Wants to be Friends …….  page 23

Rule #19     Ask Questions to Get to Know Someone ………… page 24

Each rule is set up on a separate page, starting with a short one or two sentence introduction, followed by easy-to-follow steps, and ending with a quick, easy reminder called, “Remember”.  At the end of the book all the “Remembers” are written with its rule and the child is encouraged to choose 1 to 3 “Remembers” per week and use them daily. I can see these “Remembers” being used as reminders on school or home bulletin boards. Wouldn’t you post them?

Rule   28:    Remember: If I don’t ask, I will not get what I need!

Rule  58:    Remember:  I must make good decisions for myself so I can be safe, healthy, and happy!

Rule  96:     Remember: If I apologize for my mistake and try my best not to do it again, I am a  good person!

Do you see the effective use of the first person? Ms. Diamond speaks directly, enthusiastically, and honestly to the child. She is mother, cheerleader, and teacher. This is one guest we all want in our homes, therapy offices, and classrooms.

About the Author

From the AAPC publishing site:  “Susan Diamond, MA, CCC, is a licensed speech-language pathologist with a private practice in Alameda, California. She provides diagnosis and treatment of language delays and disorders and specializes in social language skills. Sue has more than 25 years’ experience in the field and is the author of Language Lessons in the Classroom and co-author of Webs for Language. She has been on TV as an expert on social skills and has produced a DVD, Diamond Social Skills. Her passion is pragmatic language and helping people gain success in communication.”

Susan speaks to conferences, schools, parent groups, and teachers, offering workshops on language development, red flags for language delays, articulation/phonology, language/learning issues, and social skills.

To have Susan Diamond, M.A., CCC-SPL, speak at your conference, school, or organization please call (510) 814-0555 or Email Sue@DiamondLanguage.com.

Follow Susan on Twitter and Facebook.

Buy Social Rules for Kids HERE.

 

This post was written by Lorna
Lorna d’Entremont: Vice-President of KidCompanions, mother of three, grandma of 5 and wife. Retired teacher and special needs advocate. Throughout she has taught all levels from grade 2 to grade 9. Lorna loved teaching and enjoyed seeing the students progress in the school system. During her 30 year career she took a few years off to raise her three children.
  • felicia Cheek

    I think this is great. I have four kids with varying types of autism. My oldest has asperger’s and is really struggling at school. I’m hoping this will help.

    • http://www.kidcompanions.com Lorna

      Thanks Felicia Cheek, This book, Social Rules for Kids by Susan Diamond, MA, CCC, is excellent for ALL kids. I hope yours will benefit from the clever rules Susan has written. When my kids were growing up or when I was teaching, I know I would have used this book very often!

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