My Big Brother Bobby: Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors of Others by Rebecca Dauer

My Big Brother Bobby: Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors of Others by Rebecca Dauer

The team at Special Needs Book Review was happy to receive copies of the wonderful children’s book, My Big Brother Bobby: A Story to Help Kids Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors in Others by Rebecca Dauer with illustrations by Annie Zimanski. Congratulations to Ms. Dauer for self publishing her children’s book about a little girl with a big imagination who teaches other children how to understand angry feelings and behaviors in others.

The last pages of this beautiful picture book are great conversation starters for parents and teachers to share with their young children. There is a page with seven questions to discuss, one page of strategies to help a child calm-down when they get upset or really scared, and one page to prompt discussions about feelings.

Ms. Dauer has information about The Sibling Support Project that is a national effort dedicated to the life-long concerns of brothers and sisters of people who have special health, developmental, or mental health concerns.

Also on the last pages of Ms. Dauer’s book, I learned the mission of the Sibling Leadership Network is to provide siblings of individuals with disabilities the information, support and tools to advocate with their brothers and sisters and to promote the issues important to them and their entire families.

Reviews About My Big Brother Bobby: Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors of Others

“This book is a welcome addition to the literature that helps to empower children to manage their fears and worries when growing up with a child who has difficult behaviors, and should be in the ‘toolbox’ of all health professionals and educators.”

Kate Strohm, author of Being the Other One (Shambhala Press)

“Like parents, sibling of kids with special needs benefit from opportunities to have their experiences described and confirmed. My Big Brother Bobby is wonderfully validating to young siblings of kids with challenging behaviors.”

Don Meyer, director of the Sibling Support Project; senior author of Sibshops: Workshops for Siblings of Children with Special Needs

My Big Brother Bobby, provides an excellent opportunity to address children’s feelings, in a non- threatening manner, about an out-of-control sibling. Many children are not only fearful, but feel neglected and resentful when the adults in charge spend so much time focusing on the out-of-control child. The child, with such a sibling or playmate, learns that these feelings are not only normal, but that they can learn strategies to handle them in times of stress. This book should be in every child therapist’s book collection.”

Dorothy H. Rawley, Ph.D. Psychologist

My Big Brother Bobby is excellent for siblings, classmates, friends and other family members to understand children who struggle with emotional and behavioral problems. We thank Rebecca Dauer for her guest post introducing her book.

Guest Post by Rebecca Dauer

My Big Brother Bobby:

 A Story to Help Kids Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors in Others


My Big Brother Bobby is story about a little girl with a big imagination and an even bigger heart. She loves to play with her brother Bobby but sometimes when he gets angry, something larger than life appears.

My Big Brother Bobby is a fun, imaginative story that educates children on the importance of understanding and coping with anger in others in a warm and easy to understand way. It isn’t your typical children’s book.  It is more of a communication bridge between parents, social workers, OTs, psychologists and children who are dealing with emotional issues, specifically those living with siblings with angry outbursts.

Why I wrote the Book

I wrote My Big Brother Bobby because there was a need for a book solely dedicated to young siblings of children who struggle with their tempers and have strong emotions. My goal is to reach as many children as possible through programs across the US. My hope is for children to relate to the characters, know that they are not alone and there are many resources available to them. I hope this book provides an outlet for conversation and understanding for all parties involved.

Siblings of children who require special care especially those that struggle with anger often times don’t get the help they need until they grow up. By then, it is harder to help. This book lets parents teach their children about their family at an early age in a way that makes them feel special and comfortable.

Target Audience

The target audience is children ages 5 and up. It is also a great resource for health professionals and educators working with children.

My Big Brother Bobby: Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors of Others by Rebecca DauerExcerpts  from My Big Brother Bobby: Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors of Others

If Bobby’s monster comes out at home, my parents tell me to lock myself into their room so that I am safe.  All I can hear are the growls of Bobby’s monster as I hold my teddy bear tight.  I go under the covers and imagine being at the beach with my grandparents and playing in the ocean.


After Bobby started at his new school, things got better.  The medicine that the doctors gave him and the skills he learned quieted his monster and kept them both much happier.  Now, the monster doesn’t come out as much as it used to and even when it does, the monster is not so scary.


I feel so angry that i wonder if I have a monster, too. What would it be like to have a monster of my own? (photo of young girl and monster)


I am much happier now, too! I go to an after-school program where I talk to other kids who know someone with a monster in their belly. I also talk to my counselor once a week. Her name is Rose and she helps me understand my big brother’s monster.  If I ever get scared, I know I always have somewhere to go and someone to talk to.

Rebecca Dauer author of My Big Brother Bobby: Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors of Others Author Bio

Rebecca Dauer is a self published author working in hopes to help siblings of children with emotional and physical challenges. She is a member of the Independent Book Publishing Association and lives in Forrest Hills, New York,


Anne Zimanski illustrator of My Big Brother Bobby: Understand Angry Feelings and Behaviors of Others Illustrator Bio

Anne Zimanski is an illustrator living in Michigan. She has a bachelor’s degree in illustration and a background in both graphic design and fine arts.

Her work can be found at

Buy My Big Brother Bobby 

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This post was written by Lorna
Lorna d’Entremont: Co-owner of SentioLife Solutions, Ltd. the company behind KidCompanions Chewelry (2007) and SentioCHEWS (2013), mother of three, grandma of 5 and wife. She is a retired teacher and special needs advocate. Throughout she has taught all levels from grade 2 to grade 9. Lorna loved teaching and enjoyed seeing the students progress in the school system. During her 30 year career she took a few years off to raise her three children.