Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That! …Bottles and Breathing to Healthy Speech Development by Diane Bahr

Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That! …Bottles and Breathing to Healthy Speech Development by Diane Bahr

Raising a child is difficult. Parents are often overwhelmed and insecure. If you are looking for practical advice for parents on everything you need to know about oral development from birth to 8 years we have the perfect parenting book to recommend: Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That! Everything from Bottles and Breathing to Healthy Speech Development by Diane Bahr, MS, CCC-SLP, CIMI. It explains everything from the basics of nursing, to SIDS, to facial massage, and finishes with the secrets to good speech development and keys to enhancing your child’s best natural appearance.

So, let us tell you about the child-rearing book you need to raise a generation of children with the healthiest feeding, speech, and mouth development possible. Diane Bahr’s book is the recipient of the 2010 TOP CHOICE OF THE YEAR AWARD from Creative Child Magazine.

This book is filled with immediately doable, useful information that is expertly organized to be your reference parenting tool. Parents, bottle and breast feeding mentors, and pediatricians will find thorough, step-by-step activities and strategies for proactive parenting and prevention of feeding and speech problems. Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That! removes “guesswork” and helps parents feel more confident and less overwhelmed.

Susan Evan Morris, PhD, writes in her foreword, “This is a book that builds awareness. This is a book about babies and young children. It is secondarily about how their mouths and faces develop for feeding and early speech. It is a book about parents and their desire to support their child’s natural development. … It also offers parents ways to observe and understand when feeding and speech development have become stuck and their baby doesn’t seem to be moving to the next level. When feeding and speech development are not progressing well, this book offers suggestions that parents can incorporate into their daily life and describes various professionals and resources that can help them.”



Chapter 4: The Hand-Mouth Connection: Helping Your Baby Have Mouthing Experiences that Promote Good development 

Chapter 5: Massage, “Jaws-ercise” Tooth-grinding, Bubbles, and Horns 

These two chapters discuss the importance of mouthing experiences. Readers will find lots of jaw work using items like KidCompanions Chewelry or SentioCHEWS. Ms. Bahr explains the hand-mouth connection, appropriate pacifier use, thumb and/or finger sucking, teething and drooling, mouth toys, tooth grinding, etc.

TEN Features of Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That!:

  1. Pleasing, eye-catching book from cover to cover with its red, blue, and black text with bold, larger sized fonts for titles and sub-titles.
  2. Judicious use of background colors for activities and charts
  3. Detailed Table of Contents with Chapter Titles that make it easy to find information
  4. An index that makes this a “Go-to-Book” when parents and other caregivers need information quickly and often
  5. Sample Log Sheets to Track Health Concerns, Allergens and Possible Allergy-Related Problems, Food Diary, etc.
  6. Colored, titled photos of children and parents that support the content showing the correct techniques written about.
  7. Charts to help you identify your child’s development at various ages and stages
  8. Activities to help you learn techniques and strategies quickly and easily
  9. At the beginning of each chapter the “Key Topics in this Chapter” are clearly stated in bullet format
  10. Chapter 10: How Does This Apply To My Child with Particular Special Needs? Seven categories of special needs are addressed:
  • Children Born Prematurely
  • Children with Down Syndrome
  • Children with Autism
  • Children with Cerebral Palsy
  • Children with Hearing Loss
  • Children with Other Developmental Delay
  • Children with Cleft Lip and Palate

Free Parent Book GuidesAges & Stages Diane Bahr's web site - Courses, Parent Education, Professional Mentoring, & Online Program Consultation Available

Once you have your book in hand, you need to know how to use it. Parents and professionals are busy people. The free parent book guides (on Diane Bahr’s website) help you quickly and easily navigate the extensive information found in Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That!  You can look up information by age and/or topic as needed.

Ms. Bahr’s book focuses on proactive parenting and prevention of feeding, speech, and mouth development problems beginning at birth for all children. The book has free age and topic guides (available on the website), so parents and professionals can access the information they need when they need it. The book is criterion-referenced and literature-based but in parent-friendly language.

What Is Being Said About Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That!

See what parents, doctors, lactation consultants, nurses, therapists, early interventionists, and others are saying about this comprehensive child development manual:

Diane, you’ve got a gem here…. Your book is a well-organized resource that is chock full of new information and ideas in an easy-to-read format. It’s an extremely valuable book — valuable to parents who are troubled about their child-s feeding or speech difficulties and don’t know where to turn, and valuable to speech therapists who seek sensible and practical answers to apply in their own therapy. Thank you for your creation and compilation of this highly useful material!
~Char Boshart, MA, CCC-SLP, Speech Dynamics, Inc.

THE Dr. Spock book of the 21st Century in eating, speech, mouth, and facial development. ~ Lyn Dunsavage Young, Dunsavage Communications

I am an SLP interested in feeding/swallowing disorders/problems… textbook provides a wealth of PRACTICAL and USEFUL information … Once I picked it up and started reading I was amazed at how simple the language was and how easy to read it was, and how relevant and useful all the presented information was! The book just flows and you want to learn more and more as you read and what I like is that the author reiterates some important points throughout the book so you don’t forget too easily. I usually dont do well with text and I am a visual learner, but the way the information is presented here, I have been soaking in the information. Each sub-category in each chapter comes with very useful checklists/charts that are so easy to understand and follow when going to assess a child with a feeding disorder/problem. The checklists are outlined as what the normal behavior is, the equivalent abnormal behavior, and the possible causes/fixes to the behavior …(and that’s pretty much the outline of the whole book) what more can you ask for as a clinician! You pull this book out and here is the info! You can make copies of the checklists and carry them around for your evaluations and treatments. … Its a MUST-HAVE reference book! ~Anna B

Excerpt explaining why Diane Bahr wrote Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That!  (p. xvii)

As a feeding and speech therapist for over 35 years, I have seen many children with health and development concerns directly related to problems in feeding and other early mouth experiences. These include sinus and ear problems, allergies, asthma, gastroesophageal reflux, nutritional concerns, sensory processing concerns, late vocal and speech development, and orthodontic issues. Many of these problems could be avoided or reduced if parents and others had more specific information and training on these topics.

The information in this book comes from my years of experience as a speech-language pathologist while working with children on the development of improved feeding, speech, mouth development, and communication skills. The book also contains the best research I could find on the topics presented. I will tell you the secrets many therapists have learned over the years, but the typical parent may never hear. It is information your pediatrician may not know to tell you. I wish I had had this information when I was a young mom 40 years ago.

There are many books on breastfeeding, childhood nutrition, and child development, but I have not found any other book for parents explaining the mechanics of feeding, speech, and mouth development. Good feeding techniques and appropriate mouth activities are essential for your child’s overall health, well-being, and, ultimately, proper speech development.

About the Author:

Diane Bahr, MS, CCC-SLP, CIMI Author of Nobody Ever Told Me (or my Mother) That! Everything from Bottles and Breathing to Healthy Speech DevelopmentDiane Bahr, MS, CCC-SLP, CIMI

Diane Bahr is a speech-language pathologist, feeding therapist, published author, international speaker, former university instructor, mother, and grandmother with over 35 years of experience working with children and adults, their families, their therapists, and their doctors. Diane wants all children (and adults) to have the best possible feeding, speech, and mouth development/function. This is accomplished by educating parents, professionals, and consumers in the best possible practices.

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This post was written by Lorna
Lorna d’Entremont: Co-owner of SentioLife Solutions, Ltd. the company behind KidCompanions Chewelry (2007) and SentioCHEWS (2013), mother of three, grandma of 5 and wife. She is a retired teacher and special needs advocate. Throughout she has taught all levels from grade 2 to grade 9. Lorna loved teaching and enjoyed seeing the students progress in the school system. During her 30 year career she took a few years off to raise her three children.